Can you believe it? I am a grandmother to a beautiful 2 & 1/2 month old girl named Evangeline-Vesper Lynne Bonner to be known as EV for short. I had the pleasure of visiting her, holding her, caressing her and loving her for the first time last month. I could not believe the pleasure I experienced in this visit. You see, I live in Ontario, Canada and my granddaughter lives in Texas, USA. We are worlds apart. This has been hard on me having my daughter and granddaughter live so far away. I know she is loved and well cared for by her parents Nadia and Matt Bonner but this does not help me. The other grandparents of hers are in the same boat. We all live far away. Today my daughter posted on Facebook she was in need of a babysitter. If some of us lived closer we would have solved this problem for her. There are lots of volunteers.
Tell me how others cope with this void in their life. When your children become adults you are used to being ignored for awhile because they are busy getting on with their own lives. But grandchildren do not have a choice about this nor do grandparents for the most part. Visits will be infrequent, I know, but this is hard to accept. You wait for so long to become a grandparent. It just does not seem to be fair. I want so much to be part of her life.
Children tend to have their children later in life then we did. Mind you I did not have my daughter until I was 29 years old and she was 30 having her first child. I guess she is following in my footsteps after all. I did not live very close to my mother when I had her, but then again my mother did not seem as interested in my children as she did with her other grandchildren living closer to her. I am not sure if she was afraid to form a bond which she felt she could not deliver on or what. My children's great aunt and a woman who helped raise me picked up the slack for her sister and she and my uncle while he was alive did all the things for my children most would expect from a grandmother.
Well I guess I am lucky. I wanted to be a grandmother and I got my wish.
About Me
- Grammy Pammy Wammy
- My time spent with my grandchildren are the happiest moments I have now. Not happy being a disabled senior and having to rely on others for help to manage my life. I am hoping my heath improves in time but this will require more dedication and commitment to exercising on my part. This is not actually my area of expertise. Like the rest of the world I can not wait until this COVID pandemic ends soon so life can get back to normal. I worry about how this isolation is affecting my grandchildren but expect everyone is worrying about this too.